Today, we live in a world of extroverts. We, introverts, feel marginalised.
At least, I do.
Today, what is needed to survive in this modern and demanding society? Communication skills. Voice. Team spirit.
Indeed, these are important qualities, but what about those who prefer to develop their passion in reclusion?
Writers, painters… artists all over the world are now compelled to develop a social life, digital or not, so as to sell their arts. That’s a good thing, yes, but most of them being introverts… that’s not easy.
And anyway, these careers are mostly laughed at and no more taken seriously.
Because we now live in a world of extroverts.
As an introvert, struggling to be at least a little extrovert for basic survival, I have come to realise that:
- I tend to reach out to a solitary life, but then at some point, I just feel lonely. But when I go back to the crowded world, I also at a certain point recoil again.
- I am stuck in my own world. And I don’t mind.
- I tend to keep things to myself. My feelings, good or bad. My thoughts. And it feels like a time bomb inside my chest, ready to explode at any moment.
- I sometimes forget to pay attention to the people around me. Always lost within myself, as if there is an invisible and invincible wall between me and the rest of the world.
- I guess this all makes me selfish.
- I realise that, I may have many friends, but in the end, I only have acquaintances, except for one or two exceptions.
- Indeed, I’m not an open book for anyone to read. Some might think that you know everything about me… but even my secret diary doesn’t. So.
- Plainly, I’m just so shy.
Does anyone feel the same? Or it is just me?
Are there more qualities of an introvert as I to add?
Nevertheless, I’ve been making some efforts about going to the outside world. Blogging, for instance, has helped overcome my shyness. I’m still shy and reluctant to speak out, but I’m better at communication now.
At school, I have also learnt how to speak out orally in class as well.
I’m starting to be more concerned about the world around me. Open my eyes and be more active.
I’ve been able to show my deepest feelings and thoughts, to say them out loud.
I’m making efforts.
I’ve indeed never been that courageous in one year.
Yet, finally, I come back to where I was. Maybe not completely, but it’s close. I still crave for solitude. I love to be lost within my own world.
And I write. I create art. The arts have always been a solitary path, am I not right? At least, in the creating process. For the marketing stuff… that’s not of our concern for this post.
In the end, I then wonder: why should I even try to change who I really am?
I might learn how to speak out and get these famous communicative skills that every acceptable job is looking for in an employee, but deep inside, I will always be shy. I will always be petrified in a crowd. That’s my nature.
I might learn to show off merry feelings, go with arms wide open to people and cover my face with an extrovert mask, but beneath, I’m as any introvert. Reserved. Secretive.
Indeed, we are!
Never try to change your personality. It’s only exhausting. Just adapt it to the world around you. Or even better: make the world adapt itself to you! Be proud of who you truly are and never deny it.
Thus to conclude, I’ll quote the most common quote ever:
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.
By Oscar Wilde of course!
So, reader, are you an introvert or extrovert? Any particular thoughts to add?
An Evil Nymph.
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