My First Step Towards Self-Confidence

I thought I had self-confidence. I was an intelligent and well-loved girl. I was a dreamer. I lived in my own little world. I had friends, a family… what could possibly be wrong?

But then, when I had to sit for oral english examinations, I realise that in fact, I had a low self-esteem. I couldn’t firstly talk properly, I just ended up stammering and running out of words. Before I was really under stress. After I was drinking my whole bottle of water in one go – and of course I had to rush to the toilet.

I have never felt such panic in my whole short life.

Since that day, I knew that I was not ready at all for Life. I was still young so I fortunately can correct myself in time.

I lacked self-confidence.

lack of self confidence

I might have been proud of myself, but it was not enough.

I could barely look myself into the mirror because although I can be beautiful inside, I wasn’t outside. It’s true that inner beauty is was counts the most, but we, humans, are weak and we need to see to believe. Self-confidence deals with both inner and outer beauty – my opinion.’

So for those who really lack self-esteem, look at yourself in the mirror. Of course we all tend to notice the flaws of our body… but what about its qualities? We should take those into consideration too. Someone might have a beautiful nose, and you a crooked one but you might have beautiful eyes (in shape and colour)!

I think that all eyes are beautiful because they are the windows of our soul, the most sacred thing inside of us.

beautiful drawing eye

You know that you are beautiful inside, but knowing is not enough. You must show it. And not only by doing kind deeds but also by dressing up appropriately; be disciplined but warm-hearted through your eyes. Take care of your body. Use creams if you have pimples or whatever. Wash your face, comb your hair, try on some clothing/makeup styles… This really does boost up your confidence. Your appearance should reflect what you are inside. And never say that you have an ugly soul – no one does!

I now can look myself into the mirror everyday; I pamper myself.

This can seem selfish but… if you really want to care for others, you should care for yourself first. An uneducated person cannot apply for the job of doctor to help all these dying people.

Therefore the first step is:

Love yourself.

And everything will come into place.

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19 thoughts on “My First Step Towards Self-Confidence

  1. You’re beautiful inside and out sweet Daphy, in the days i need cheering up you have always been there and you always understand my blogs even if i seem like i’m rambling because you see the best in everyone, did i mention you’re unique and absolutely amazing? 🙂

  2. Nice post daph … 😉

    Loving yourself is the best thing you can ever do before loving others, you can’t say that you love someone when you know deep in yourself that you’re not completely done your part for own too.

    If you love yourself enough … then .. that’s the time you can say that have built self confidence within you. 😉

    1. Indeed! Though we never really complete self-confidence but we can always get closer and closer throughout our efforts 🙂

      ~Human nature is never perfect~that’s what makes us unique! ^^

  3. MD, what uplifting writing! Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts. Especially love this paragraph: “You know that you are beautiful inside, but knowing is not enough. You must show it. And not only by doing kind deeds but also by dressing up appropriately; be disciplined but warm-hearted through your eyes. Take care of your body. Use creams if you have pimples or whatever. Wash your face, comb your hair, try on some clothing/makeup styles… This really does boost up your confidence. Your appearance should reflect what you are inside. And never say that you have an ugly soul – no one does!”
    What spring you have injected into my step and my thoughts! Thank you for such a lovely piece 🙂

  4. You are a brilliant and beautiful young woman. Even though you stuttered during your oral exams, it it’s obvious through you’re writing that you are a smart and articulate girl. Speaking takes practice.. It took me awhile to really learn how to speak without sounding dumb… But great entry and very uplifting!

  5. I think public speaking is so difficult. Which is ironic since i am in the customer service business, I have to do it every day. I think one thing that is really hard is eye contact.
    Like you said, eyes are windows to the souls.
    having someone look you in the eye, leaves you vulnerable yet at the same time powerful. Even if I do stammer (which I used to do alot) looking someone in the eye at least for a moment, it leaves them vulnerable as well. So it makes me feel better. That I am not only one feeling nervous or ridiculous.

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