How I Control Anger

Anger, although being one of the seven deadly sins, is a very common feeling, felt and expressed by everyone. Usually, anger is impulsive; it is a release… of shouts and cries until one’s throat is dry and the face’s gone all red and sweaty.

But then, sometimes anger makes one do or say things that one may regret afterwards.

As an introvert, when I’m angry, I’m usually very silent. Everything is happening inside. Every tear shed, every cry howled, every wish of annihilation… Of course, at times, when I’m threatened (sort of, when someone annoys me), I can’t help but lash out at the person until my vocal cords hurt.

Anger is a feeling that’s hard to control.

Nevertheless, I’ve been able to find some ways that do help me cope with this and I hope it’ll help you as well, especially those who find it hard to conceal your feelings.

My Tips for Anger Management: How To Be In Control.

1. Practise some sports.

For me, running is one of the easiest sportive way to release anger. Especially when there’s a cold wind blowing against your face… Or sometimes I just walk fast, especially that I don’t like to show that I’m frustrated. I walk fast, in cold weather, without any coat… (although, don’t freeze yourselves; here, in Mauritius, winter isn’t that harsh, that’s why I’m able to do it.)

Then for many, I know that boxing helps a lot. If you are the kind of person to be angry easily and impulsive when this feeling empowers you, keep a punching bag (small or big, doesn’t matter) at home. Gloves or not, that’s your choice. Somehow mild pain also helps. (a healthy kind of pain – like sports pain; but don’t cut yourself or whatever!!)

 

 

2. Listen to music

Sometimes all I need is a playlist of rock (any kind)  music and high volume plugged in my ears. For others, I know that their anger can diminish by listening to calm music. It all depends on you.

Here’s one of the many songs I listen to when I’m angry:

3. Express your feelings through art.

Either I write a horrible story (very horror type or sad or just… argg), or simply in my diary, like I lash out all my frustration by telling it in writing, or I paint/draw. I especially paint, because it’s a creative activity which demands my whole attention and concentration… sometimes so much that I don’t think about anything else… I’m just like in another world, like… I’m possessed by a demon. Because when I start, and driven by my emotions, I can’t stop.

One of my little watercolour paintings – well only part of it – which you can check out on my instagram @anevilnymph 🙂

It’s like I’m consumed by art. And my anger is gone, while love and creativity increase.

4. Cry. 

Yes, let your tears fall down. I know they want to, especially when you’re angry, right? I don’t personally do that, because unfortunately I’m too proud to shed tears, I just get angrier, but I know for others it does feel good. Instead of shouting and all, just let the feelings go through your eyes. It feels better afterwards. Just let it all go.

5. Think WAY Too Much.

That’s my favourite and personal tip. What I do is, when I’m angry, instead of shouting and doing all the things you tend to do in such situations without thinking, I imagine it all in my head. I’m angry, but I remained silent, and I see myself crying, shouting, shrieking, tearing every book and paper and even fabrics like bedsheets, banging on all furniture, burning everything…

Sometimes, I think that I am in a tall room, with blank canvas all over the walls and I have buckets of paint and various painting brushes in my hands. Then, in my rage I just split everything on all canvas, throwing all colours, while painting like crazy, taking a kinfe and tearing it all…

Whew. With all of these scenarios in my head, I start to feel tired… and my anger fades as the images fade.

All the while, no harm done!

6. Go to sleep!

You’ve had a hard day at work or school. You’re tired and frustrated and… tired and frustrated. Thus, I think that at times, all we need is to take a break from all this pressure. Sleep is a great medicine. Who knows, maybe tomorrow the sun will shine?

That’s it! Hope it helps!

How do YOU deal with anger?

An Evil Nymph.

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