This is something that is heard on many occasions, and in my surroundings it is heard especially from students, including me. Why such a low self-esteem attitude?
Peer pressure, you’d say? What about parent pressure?
How does it feel to be pushed forward, beyond natural speed, and be criticised on everything you try to do? How does it feel when you do your best, and still it feels it just isn’t enough to the eyes of your elders?
It might even go to the point of breaking down, of giving up, of being disgusted with life. It then drains away motivation and ambition.
Of course, parents care and worry about their children’s future, especially that we seem to live in a harsher, more stressful world, but then…
How does it feel to never be truly praised and feel satisfied of yourself? Because everything you do never does come out as ‘perfect’?
Perfection does not exist. In fact, I like the saying that says: Imperfection is human perfection. Indeed, no one is perfect, but this should not be a brake for us.
Many are able to move forward in life by learning through criticism, but somehow sometimes some positive encouragement does not kill! Anyway, who genuinely enjoys being criticised? Of course your work isn’t perfect, but it doesn’t mean there won’t be any improvement. Why do some people just love to tell others that you’ll just never get better, even if it’s not directly said? (e.g. “This is such a bad story.”) Why not add something that can help the person at least, instead of 100% putting him/her down? (e.g. “This is a bad story, but maybe if you… then it’ll be better. Why don’t you try it again? Come on, I know you can do it.”)
What I’ve learnt from others, is that criticism should not be taken too personally, and by that I mean that no matter what people say, you know that you did your best, you know that you have potential to be better, you know that you have and will continue to make mistakes but that it shouldn’t discourage you from doing what you do. Even if the criticisms come from your dearest friends or parents. No one goes through your life except YOU!
So don’t give up that easily. Keep on trying.
That’s my second speed drawing attempt. I haven’t reached perfection either, and maybe no one ever will. But we’ll still do our best. Like it or not, we’re all human.
I’m not good enough. Enough of saying that! Instead tell yourself that your life, your journey isn’t over yet, and that there is room for improvement. I can will get better.
The story is not over yet.
An Evil Nymph.