LOL I’m sorry but I could not NOT post this with a post title like that!
Okay, the remaining content of this post is actually serious and if you cannot stand crazy feminists, I strongly recommend you NOT to read any further. Don’t complain. I warned you.
Today, I want to address a particular concern of mine that I’ve been thinking about for a while now. That of gentlemanliness (I had no idea that this word existed until now!) in our present time.
The typical complain is that men are no longer gentlemen. They have lost this value, this ‘respect’ towards women. But those few who are, are definitely ‘admired’. In university I have seen girls praising this or that guy about him being a ‘real gentleman’, he who is well-behaved in front of girls, who gives his seat to girls, who does not curse in front of her and opens the door for her…
Guys scold one another as well in those terms. For example, one day a group of guys and I were having a conversation and I was the only one standing and thus eventually one of them told the guy nearest to me (jokingly but with strong intentions) that he should be ashamed of himself for not offering his seat to me.
Do you know what I think about all this mannerism?
In more slang terms, facepalm.
Guy2: Don’t curse in front of a girl!
Guy: Sorry, Daphnee.
Guy: Ladies first.
Guy: Give her a chair. How can you let a girl stand while you’re sitting?
And most importantly, sexist.
Yes, in my humble opinion, being a gentleman is being f*cking sexist.
But I’m not blaming men. I’m trying not to blame anyone… but I’m really mainly disappointed with women. Girls of our generation. Seriously girls, simply saying ‘this guy has no manners’ enforces gender disparity. This is bringing oppression of women upon yourselves. How? Well, if you think about it, encouraging guys to be gentlemen only encourages them to treat you as inferior, in the way that oh, we women are so fragile and sensitive that we need to be treated so kindly and with great care…
If you are shocked about guys cursing in front of you (and oh yes on this side of the world, girls do!) or if you’re waiting a lifetime for a guy to finally give you a seat, later don’t complain about how your boss will not promote you because he regards you as being the ‘feeble sex’.
Be strong, girls. If you want men and women to be treated equally, expect it to come from both the good and bad sides. And guys can be given a seat by girls as well. If you insist on keeping gentlemanliness in society, then start introducing gentlewomanliness.
Of course, Psy’s video is greatly exaggerated and goes towards ‘jerk-iness’ (which is highly NOT encouraged, please) but he has a point in making a parody of gentlemanliness.
Go, go gender equality!
An Evil Nymph.