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Creative Thoughts | What is Love, really?

“What is love?”

“I don’t believe in love.”

“It’s that special connection with that special someone.”

“Love is a feeling.”

“Nope, I’d say it’s a choice.”

“It’s hard work, if you wanna make it last, that is.”

“Do you believe in soul mates?”

“No, please, none of that ‘The One’ bullshit.”

“Yes, I do.”

“I just stopped believing in that.”

“Maybe… I don’t know. What is a soul mate anyway?”

“Well, there’s definitely a difference between a soul mate and a life partner. At least, someone used to tell me that.”

“So what if you mean both of them at the same time? Can you fall in love with two people at the same time?”

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Re: DATING RED FLAGS

I’ve recently become a big fan of LUNCH BREAK! Wong Fu Productions series on YouTube that they upload on their additional channel. What they do is they sit down and have lunch while conversing about a particular topic. The one I want to draw attention to is the one in which they discussed ‘DATING RED FLAGS’ (video at the end of the post!): basically, what they would consider to be a turn-off when dating someone.

I found the video pretty interesting as I was considering my own red flags in comparison and my opinions on theirs. To the point that, yes, I’ve decided to compile a few of their red flags and discuss about them each in this post!

Before I start with the list, I would like to clarify that I am indeed in a relationship right now and that these dating concerns have eventually consciously or unconsciously affected my decision to stick with him (it’s been 10 months now!).

Additionally, I have heard many definitions of ‘dating’ from a Western-Asian mixed culture, and the two main ones that stand out are i) dating is the stage before two people get into a relationship, and ii) dating is when you are in a relationship and seeing that person as your boyfriend/girlfriend. Whatever suits you. It doesn’t really matter in this post. The red flags apply either way to some extent.

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To The One(s) Who Didn’t Love Me Back

*Disclaimer: This work is partly fiction.*

When I was 5,
I didn’t think about love.
All I knew was that I looked forward
To seeing you every day at school
And playing together during recess.

When I was 13,
I was peer pressured into love.
I was lost in tales of ‘unconditionally’;
Everyone seemed to have their ‘One’ but not I.
You looked into my eyes, into my despair.
I fell for you; you did not.

When I was 14,
I told everyone about you.
Yes, I was crazy about you.
I got teased; I got ignored.
I felt ugly, unloved.
Never, I will never tell again.

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Why I Asked Him Out – And Not The Other Way Round

It is not generally easy to ask someone you like out. However, despite the fear of breaking a friendship and of rejection, it is most likely the only way to find that special someone. Opportunities are not to be missed. Risks are worth being taken. Trials and errors. Time to move forward.

1. That first paragraph was my mental state at that time. I had barely dived into my 20’s and therefore I was excited to try out bolder things. I wanted to make the most out of my young adult life. Be daring.

2. I was more confident. That was firstly because I was in university for a longer period than him, while it was only his first semester, and secondly because I was practically his ‘boss’ during the only extra-curricular activity that we had in common – the only thing we had in common. I was also the one to personally recruit him in the team.

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A Long-Distance Valentine’s Day

My first celebrated Valentine’s Day ever; and yet I was sitting on the couch on my own at home.

My first reciprocated love ever; and he is 3190 miles away.

My first relationship ever; and filled with months of being separated by the ocean yet with other months waking up next to each other and feeling each other’s hearts.

Skype goodnights.

Midnight ‘I Love You’s.

An unstable distance; a stable romance.

We dive in ‘forever’s.

But it’s not always easy. It sometimes feel like the whole world is against us; while lovers meet on Valentine’s Day, we go on our separate lives, united only by the thought.

I don’t know which is worse: to be lonely on that day or to be unable to spend that day with that someone special.

In the end, let’s simply shrug: we, as true and loving to each other, celebrate Valentine’s Day any other day, every day.

An Evil Nymph.

The Most Dangerous Thing About Love

Here’s this week’s Picture it & Write! I’m sorry I’m late!

locker schoolMaybe I was too late.

Maybe I had noticed it too late.

The most dangerous thing about love was that it could deprive you of all your senses, all except the one deep inside of you: that of your heart. When trapped within its unyielding grasp, it would hug you so hard that you would feel the loud drumming of that central organ of yours; it would suffocate you and hypnotize you…

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