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On How I Discovered My True Personal Fashion Style | Thanks K-POP

I feel that it’s been a while since I wrote a personal personal post, like when I used to ramble about my #OOTD or what I bought today or basically what is going on in my life… and this post is going to be something of that sort. I’m literally typing this in the middle of the night, instead of focusing on my exams revision, without any plans, impulsively. I usually prefer it if readers can take away something valuable out of my posts, but I’m not sure about this one, where it is going to go… haha, anyway if you enjoy ramblings, read on.

Here’s the gist:

It came to me like an epiphany. I finally discovered what my true and all-time personal fashion style was. Like, the core of my style. And it hit me… while I was watching BLACKPINK:

For someone who never listens to k-pop, how did I end up watching this in the first place??? Well, it’s all thanks to the Fine Brothers and their latest react video. I always tend to go check the music videos they react to just because I’m curious…

I sincerely have no idea how my train of thoughts work so fast but somehow, watching this video made me think about the clothes I saw at the mall today as I was passing by some clothing stores, then made me stand up and walk to my closet to open it and check out my clothes. Well, I believe there is some association… since I was really impressed with the colourful funky style these Korean girls were pulling off.

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Halloween Edition | How I Did My Makeup In High School #Challenge

That featured image up there is so cringe-worthy… If you have been sticking around, reading this blog since the beginning of time (i.e. 2011), then you might remember that I used to have quite a peculiar… goth style. I mean, come on, it’s An Evil Nymph (although there are other reasons why I called my blog that way).

Anyway, Happy Halloween! It’s that time of the year again, when I’m finally able to unleash my dark sides to the world without anyone judging! I remember, back when I had just started this blog, I wrote a few fashion/makeup posts, especially those special ones for festivities, such as Halloween… (do you guys remember that I also used to have a makeup blog right before this one?)

As the years went by, my craze for goth and makeup in general died down… and I had stopped ‘dressing up’ for Halloween (since we don’t officially celebrate it on this side of the world) and in university, it was worse because Halloween fell during the exam period! Like right now!

However, I saw this tag trend on YouTube recently about beauty vloggers re-creating their high school makeup look and eventually talking about how horrible their makeup styles were back then… and it dawned on me that this was a totally do-able makeup challenge (especially because I don’t have to buy anything)! So I was like, I should definitely do it one day. Then, I remembered that my style back in high school days was quite goth (i.e. Halloween-y)… and at the same time, I remembered that my boyfriend told me (after stalking through my old Facebook profile pictures!!!) that if he had met me back then, he would still have had a huge crush on me because he used to be into goth girls…

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Creative Thoughts | What is Love, really?

“What is love?”

“I don’t believe in love.”

“It’s that special connection with that special someone.”

“Love is a feeling.”

“Nope, I’d say it’s a choice.”

“It’s hard work, if you wanna make it last, that is.”

“Do you believe in soul mates?”

“No, please, none of that ‘The One’ bullshit.”

“Yes, I do.”

“I just stopped believing in that.”

“Maybe… I don’t know. What is a soul mate anyway?”

“Well, there’s definitely a difference between a soul mate and a life partner. At least, someone used to tell me that.”

“So what if you mean both of them at the same time? Can you fall in love with two people at the same time?”

“Wait, what?? No!”

“Why not? It’s like two different kinds of love anyway.”

“But then which do you choose? And how do you know what to choose?”

“That’s when you get back to the first question: what does love mean to you?”

“It’s stability.”

“It’s passion!”

“It’s mutual support.”

“It’s the butterflies in your stomach.”

“I don’t know. It just becomes so confusing at some point.”

“Maybe we’ll never know.”

Why is it always so hard? Always so painful?

Why does it bring us together and immediately tear us apart?

And yet, why is it so beautiful?

It broke my heart to see you with her. But I know I broke your heart first, when you saw me with him. A classic story. But, oh, I never knew it could be so complex.

“You may love someone as crazily as you have ever felt… but in the end when things go bad, you do end up walking away… moving on… and it makes you wonder, was this love, really?”

“It’s like when you give up on him because you know you deserve better. And it isn’t all sad anymore. Your heart becomes full of… hope.”

“Love is… someone who decides to stay, despite everything you have done.”

“Love is… someone who takes me back, even if I was the one to walk away.”

“Love is… forgiveness and acceptance of the other.”

It’s not a weakness. But it’s also not absolute or eternal.

“Love is knowing that, despite the fact that you won’t be in love every day, you guys will still stand by each other.”

And I’m grateful for that love. 

“Do we even deserve that kind of love?”

“Does it even matter? Love is for everyone; it is not meritocratic.”

Love is… just whatever it is.

~

An Evil Nymph.

 

 

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2 Key Habits of Mental Health Counselors that We All Need to Put into Practice

On the 10th September, we are reminded that a person dies of suicide every 40 seconds, commemorating World Suicide Prevention Day.

On the 10th October, we will be reminded that mental health issues are a part of reality and we need to be aware of them, not take them lightly. It will be World Mental Health Day.

On the 3rd September, my friends and I, as our school’s Mental Health Ambassadors, attended a Suicide Prevention workshop, organized by Befrienders, a Malaysian NGO and helpline that offers emotional support and promotes psychological well-being.

As a psychology undergrad student, the topics surrounding suicide, depression, anxiety and the likes were nothing new to me. As one trained in mental health first aid, immediate interventions regarding psychological distress were also not novelties. As a current mental health counselling student (taking it as an elective this very semester), the workshop was more of a refreshing aspect than anything else. Yet.

Yet, this workshop still made a significant difference in my perspectives regarding mental health awareness.

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Re: DATING RED FLAGS

I’ve recently become a big fan of LUNCH BREAK! Wong Fu Productions series on YouTube that they upload on their additional channel. What they do is they sit down and have lunch while conversing about a particular topic. The one I want to draw attention to is the one in which they discussed ‘DATING RED FLAGS’ (video at the end of the post!): basically, what they would consider to be a turn-off when dating someone.

I found the video pretty interesting as I was considering my own red flags in comparison and my opinions on theirs. To the point that, yes, I’ve decided to compile a few of their red flags and discuss about them each in this post!

Before I start with the list, I would like to clarify that I am indeed in a relationship right now and that these dating concerns have eventually consciously or unconsciously affected my decision to stick with him (it’s been 10 months now!).

Additionally, I have heard many definitions of ‘dating’ from a Western-Asian mixed culture, and the two main ones that stand out are i) dating is the stage before two people get into a relationship, and ii) dating is when you are in a relationship and seeing that person as your boyfriend/girlfriend. Whatever suits you. It doesn’t really matter in this post. The red flags apply either way to some extent.

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5th Blog Anniversary | Reflecting On Where I Stand, My Future Career, My Vision

Actually An Evil Nymph’s Blog blog anniversary was on the 1st August and it wasn’t until WordPress congratulated me on that milestone that I realised it. I knew 1st August was something special! Dang it!

Anyways, at that time, I had just published a post a few hours earlier and so I decided to wait a little more before putting up a proper ‘Happy Blog Anniversary’ post. However, yes, since I’m back to school and new into my third year, my responsibilities got in the way. In fact, I would have completely forgotten about blogging it if it was not for my Google Calendar, in which I have set a goal to blog once a week.

That’s how crazy life gets when the semester starts and you are involved in many things, including being a (High, sometimes) Distinction student. I literally need my phone to remind me of everything, haha!

Anyway, it’s been five years, guys. Five years since I started blogging. I can’t describe how much it has opened my eyes to the world… and my own. My blogging style has changed a lot throughout the years, but I believe that the main reason I got so immersed in blogging was not only my passion for writing, but my search for who I am, an identity, to find myself. 

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On The Will To Get Out Of Bed

You’d be walking by the road and chatting with your friends, when suddenly an unstoppable force would pull you out in a blurred mixture of melting colours, as you hear a weirdly familiar melody becoming louder and louder…

And the next thing you know, you are in bed, with your morning alarm ringing next to your ears. You feel the brightness of your phone’s screen glaring back at you as you struggle to move your arms and fingers to swipe and shut that noise down. The realisation of the beginning of day dawns on you as you think of the first few things you have to do this morning.

Another fifteen minutes, you say. You’ve set up more than one alarm. It’ll be easier to wake you up the second time.

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