Re: DATING RED FLAGS

I’ve recently become a big fan of LUNCH BREAK! a Wong Fu Productions series on YouTube that they upload on their additional channel. What they do is they sit down and have lunch while conversing about a particular topic. The one I want to draw attention to is the one in which they discussed ‘DATING RED FLAGS’ (video at the end of the post!): basically, what they would consider to be a turn-off when dating someone.

I found the video pretty interesting as I was considering my own red flags in comparison and my opinions on theirs. To the point that, yes, I’ve decided to compile a few of their red flags and discuss about them each in this post!

Before I start with the list, I would like to clarify that I am indeed in a relationship right now and that these dating concerns have eventually consciously or unconsciously affected my decision to stick with him (it’s been 10 months now!).

Additionally, I have heard many definitions of ‘dating’ from a Western-Asian mixed culture, and the two main ones that stand out are i) dating is the stage before two people get into a relationship, and ii) dating is when you are in a relationship and seeing that person as your boyfriend/girlfriend. Whatever suits you. It doesn’t really matter in this post. The red flags apply either way to some extent.

The Voice Of A Writer

A Special Picture it & Write for this week! Enjoy:

 

Her fingers trembled with excitement as she turned on her laptop to check her mail. It’s been one day already since she last messaged him and she knew that he would have been to work all day, so she had to wait for the evening to conclude…

Beauty Reflections: What Can Dating In The Dark Teach Us? [Guest Post]

We’ve all heard phrases like “Beauty is skin deep” but often wonder how true this really is. The dozens of dating shows that have popped up on the television over the years seem to challenge this idea with contestants that look like models. A new show is testing out this idea. “Dating in the dark” is a new dating show that is completely different from the ones we have seen.

Guest Post: Call Me Maybe?

Does all flirting have to be as aggressive as a Carly Rae Jepsen song?

Credits: Google Images

I like the intrigue. To take a guy who may or may not be interested and get his tethered into my sexual orbit. It’s opaque at times, mildly aggressive at others, but I always try to keep myself at a distance. Let him wonder.

Guest Post: I Was in a Mentally Abusive Relationship (PART 2)

See Part 1 here!

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On the way home the boy was visibly shaking. He drove with one hand on the wheel and the other holding mine in a death grip. My friend and his brother sat in the back. He began to purposely swing the car in and out of the ditch (red flag #6 – reckless disregard for the wellbeing of those around him). Every time I would tell him to stop and every time he would apologize or say he forgot my words. Again, I couldn’t tell if he was joking or seriously trying to kill us. I was terrified. I prayed all the way home begging God not to let me die that night. Later, my friend told me she thought he drove off the road every time she and his brother started cuddling in the back. Perhaps he was jealous and wanted to distract them. I don’t know.

We stopped at his house to change into normal clothes and go to after prom. When he went into his room to change, my friend and I heard an awful racket. It sounded as if someone was taking a hammer and smashing it into everything in sight. When he came out his hand had a big bleeding gash. He claimed he had been trying to kill a spider (red flag #7 – destructive). Terrified, I confessed everything to my friend, including my worry of losing her. She felt obligated to tell her boyfriend who said he was too unstable in that moment for me to officially break up with him. Nonetheless, I felt I had their support to end things within the next few days.

Guest Post: I Was in a Mentally Abusive Relationship (PART 1)

It’s a long guest post – so long that I will cut it in two parts and thus publish it in two posts – but it’s so beautiful and original that I just can’t find myself to cut anything from it! Just take a seat and some of your favourite drink and relax while you are carried away in the story as you scroll down…

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I Was in a Mentally Abusive Relationship

 

Towards the end of my junior year of high school I had my first ‘real’ boyfriend. The relationship was awkward at best and terrifying at worst. If not for the intervention of a few glorious friends, things could have gotten much worse. The actions of my friends helped me realize the horrid situation I was in and gave me the courage to escape.  It is important to me that all teenagers, regardless of age, sex or confidence level be aware of the signs that lead to abusive relationships. Even if you don’t get involved in one, your friends may and you need to be prepared.

Before I go further into my story, I’d like to remind you that my words are only part of the story. I cannot say what would have happened if the relationship continued and I cannot comment on the boy’s reasoning for his actions. Things may have appeared different from his point of view. This is the story of how I felt during the three month relationship.

Guest Post: Dating Tips for Teens

Another guest post! And this time it will discuss a topic I would never have been able to discuss because of my lack of concrete experience… so I’m sure it’ll appeal as interesting to you as it is to me 🙂

Enjoy!

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Dating Tips for Teens

Venturing into the world of dating for the first time as a teenager is both exciting and scary all at the same time. It’s full of butterflies, first kisses, and first heartbreaks. When you first enter the dating realm you have no idea what you’re doing, which can be overwhelming. The good news is that everyone has all of those same emotions, so you’re not alone. Before you jump headfirst into the world of dating, though, make sure you do a few key things: