Ah! Those annoying phone calls! Those text messages! Those email alerts and Facebook updates and Tweets! Not to mention the coworkers, the kids outside, the sirens and the construction! How can a writer ever concentrate long enough in all this hullaballoo to get anything written? How do you continue a thought when you have so many interruptions and distractions all around you? Well, here are some tips that might help you out:
So Camp NaNoWrimo is soon coming to an end, if you’ve been participating, we’re already in the last week of writing 50,000 words! I’m sorry that I did not really talk about my NaNo plans and all that, compared to last year’s NaNoWriMo, but let’s say that I got a great start, but since school started it’s been harder to keep up. I’ve got better statistics than last year though, so it’s all right 🙂
Because my life is all about writing for the time being, today I’m going to give you two tips, I think I’ll be short as I have to get to writing (lol), that is efficient for me when I get the syndrome of the Writer’s Block.
Often when I’m depressed/upset and don’t know what to do, I opened my Google Chrome browser and search for ‘things to do when you’re upset’ on Google. Much to my disappointment the lists given weren’t that useful as they mostly tackled the long-term depression period, while I’m just searching for some things to do NOW, stuck at home, to cheer me up. Also, there is no particular order in these list, except that maybe some of them start with the most effective one: help someone.
Sincerely, I think it’s ridiculous to place it on top of the list. Of course, helping others enables us to think of something else except our worries, yet as I said, it’s long-term – it needs preparation, planning, thinking… Well, all the things I don’t want to do instantly when I’m depressed. I have to calm down my depression first.
Back in 2009-2010, I badly wanted to become a clinical psychologist. Of course, the writer was still simmering inside, but I needed something else… I didn’t want to study writing because I don’t want to be compelled of doing something I love and I feared to stop loving it if I was too much forced into it.
Today, I’m reconsidering this.
Because I recently remembered why I actually wanted to meddle with mental illnesses.
The reason wasn’t to be called ‘Doctor’ or to have money or even because I considered myself as being one of the mad people. No. The primary reason that pulled me into psychology and struggling to remember all the possible names of the various mental disorders was that I just wanted to help.
I could have become a doctor, but I didn’t want to study science in high school and had already opted for languages anyway. So the nearest possible career was becoming a psychologist. I remembered that I just felt so excited to be able to cure, or at least counsel, teens like me who suffered depression, bipolar moods…
Really, this should be the main reason for people to engage in medicine: the power to help others.
Now that summer is here and classes are over you probably have a lot of extra free time to play around with. And while hanging out with friends and goofing off is always the most pleasurable way to spend time, it’s not always the most financially friendly, especially if you have no means of an income. And even if you do have a job and you’re just looking for some easy ways to make extra money to help fund your summer plans, these ideas will help you do just that:
1. Sell old clothes to a resale shop – Instead of hanging on to clothes you never wear or tossing them into a garage sale pile where they’ll sell for a quarter a piece, take them to a local resale shop and sell them there. Some resale shops pay you up front and some pay you as your items sell, but either way you’ll end up with some extra spending money.
So what if I’m not skinny and do not have the height of a super model? [Sorry for the long title by the way]
It isn’t supposed to matter. We know it doesn’t matter. But do clothing retailers and magazines help us to think so?
No. Not at all.
In about two weeks I’m going to a Gala Show at night and my friends and I were talking about what to wear. A dress, most probably. But it’s so hard to find one at your right size, style and personality. Most of the chic clothing I see in shops are stereotyped: they seem to be only reserved for skinny and very tall girls. And what about the rest? Yes there’s a brand for pregnant women. Pregnant women! What about the others then? Those who are not too big or too skinny but still have to hide a belly? Those whose height is under average?
In truth, ladies, whatever be the shape of your body, it’s always hard to find the perfect – at least suitable – dress.
Because I don’t have much experience in fashion, I’m only going to give you some tips when choosing a dress, for those who are like me: short and a little fat in the middle 😛
Girls, prepare your observant eyes and untiring feet… because the search will be difficult.
The Right Dress
If you wish to hide your excess belly fats, you should pick up an empire line dress, which means that the belt of the dress should be just under your breasts:
I’ve mentioned something on facebook/twitter about a sudden epiphany on fiction writing of mine, if you noticed… and this is what I’m going to reveal today with this post.
Since NaNoWriMo in November I became deeply passionate about writing. I started to follow people like Rachelle Gardner, The Creative Penn, Larry Brooks and so on. I have been writing and reading and writing again… Yet the lessons I’ve learnt (especially the very effective ones of Larry Brooks on his website storyfix.com) didn’t fully flowed from my brain to my hands and fingers. I felt I was missing something, something I couldn’t grasp yet. Of course it takes time to completely understand something you are taught. It’s totally normal.
Since NaNoWriMo I’ve learnt so much that now when I read a book, I open my eyes… I just read differently. And after a week of writing, writing and writing, one of my friends lend me a book that I’d surely like, so she said, and it’s called The Mortal Intruments (book one): City of Bones by Cassandra Clare.
If you haven’t read it, you totally should, especially if you are an aspiring writer.
When I started to read it I automatically thought of another author Melissa Marr and her Wicked Lovely book series. It meant that even though I was going to like the book, my #1 favourite will still remain The Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett. 😛 (there’s no better book than this one I guarantee!)
I’ve been wanting to write this post for a long time actually, because I know that most people are so overwhelmed with work/school that they tend to neglect their personal/family life/hobbies. They forget to relax.
That’s when they’re supposed to stand up and say: I need to organise myself.
Sometimes it’s nice to follow one’s instinct etc… but at other times, a schedule is needed. Especially for us, bloggers. So many bloggers tend to neglect their blog and post too irregularly. Of course, everyone has a life out of this virtual world. But some are frustrated about not meeting both the needs of their real and virtual life.
Just like me.
I like to be in both worlds and I hate it when it’s unbalanced. So what’s my solution? How can we balance these two again after losing control?
‘Busy’ and ‘Moody’ – these two words described this month and are mostly the products of my trip to Malaysia, yet which I’ll never regret of course, because I have to adapt myself again to Mauritius, to school and activities at the same – which includes blogging! I’m still struggling to get back into my routine. *sigh*
Anyway let the list of my bookmarked websites of this month of April begin!
In my Advice on Guest Posting post I promised you to talk about another and easier way to promote your blog via other blogs, which is link exchange! So here I’m keeping my word 🙂
What is link exchange?
It is a very simple process to increase traffic on your website: a blogger contacts another one and asks for a link exchange, which means that he/she will give away his website’s link and details for the other blogger to advertise it on its site, like for example in a sidebar, and vice versa.
On the way home the boy was visibly shaking. He drove with one hand on the wheel and the other holding mine in a death grip. My friend and his brother sat in the back. He began to purposely swing the car in and out of the ditch (red flag #6 – reckless disregard for the wellbeing of those around him). Every time I would tell him to stop and every time he would apologize or say he forgot my words. Again, I couldn’t tell if he was joking or seriously trying to kill us. I was terrified. I prayed all the way home begging God not to let me die that night. Later, my friend told me she thought he drove off the road every time she and his brother started cuddling in the back. Perhaps he was jealous and wanted to distract them. I don’t know.
We stopped at his house to change into normal clothes and go to after prom. When he went into his room to change, my friend and I heard an awful racket. It sounded as if someone was taking a hammer and smashing it into everything in sight. When he came out his hand had a big bleeding gash. He claimed he had been trying to kill a spider (red flag #7 – destructive). Terrified, I confessed everything to my friend, including my worry of losing her. She felt obligated to tell her boyfriend who said he was too unstable in that moment for me to officially break up with him. Nonetheless, I felt I had their support to end things within the next few days.
It’s a long guest post – so long that I will cut it in two parts and thus publish it in two posts – but it’s so beautiful and original that I just can’t find myself to cut anything from it! Just take a seat and some of your favourite drink and relax while you are carried away in the story as you scroll down…
I Was in a Mentally Abusive Relationship
Towards the end of my junior year of high school I had my first ‘real’ boyfriend. The relationship was awkward at best and terrifying at worst. If not for the intervention of a few glorious friends, things could have gotten much worse. The actions of my friends helped me realize the horrid situation I was in and gave me the courage to escape. It is important to me that all teenagers, regardless of age, sex or confidence level be aware of the signs that lead to abusive relationships. Even if you don’t get involved in one, your friends may and you need to be prepared.
Before I go further into my story, I’d like to remind you that my words are only part of the story. I cannot say what would have happened if the relationship continued and I cannot comment on the boy’s reasoning for his actions. Things may have appeared different from his point of view. This is the story of how I felt during the three month relationship.